Society has an expectation of how boys should behave and if your sons are highly sensitive they won’t meet those expectations. And I am truly grateful for that.
I don’t believe raising children should be about teaching them to conform to what is traditionally expected of them. I believe they should be allowed to be who they are and choose a path that feels natural to them.
Boys are bombarded with images about how they should behave. They are confronted with how ‘real men’ should conduct themselves – just as much as girls are. And we are all aware of how damaging that can be – even more son when you are a HSC.
And that’s the topic of my latest article written for The Good Men Project: My Boys Are Not Stereotypes, They Are so Much More.
“I want them to search for what drives them. I will not let raising boys be about wearing the right or wrong color, or playing with the wrong or right toys. Raising them is not about an image they are expected to project as boys, nor about meeting the expectations of those around us. My parenting goal is to encourage my sons be themselves, to ensure they follow their own path, and not a route that is an easier and more peaceful path to take because it is one that males are expected to take.” The Good Men Project: My Boys Are Not Stereotypes, They Are so Much More
I would love to hear from other parents raising boys, either here, or over on The Good Men Project. Are boy stereotypes something they should strive for? Or are they your parenting anti-model? How do stereotypes effect your daughters?