My Boys are not Stereotypes, They Are So Much More – The Good Men Project

Society has an expectation of how boys should behave and if your sons are highly sensitive they won’t meet those expectations. And I am truly grateful for that.

My Boys Are Not Stereotypes, They Are so Much MoreI don’t believe raising children should be about teaching them to conform to what is traditionally expected of them. I believe they should be allowed to be who they are and choose a path that feels natural to them.

Boys are bombarded with images about how they should behave. They are confronted with how ‘real men’ should conduct themselves – just as much as girls are. And we are all aware of how damaging that can be – even more son when you are a HSC.

And that’s the topic of my latest article written for The Good Men Project: My Boys Are Not Stereotypes, They Are so Much More.

“I want them to search for what drives them. I will not let raising boys be about wearing the right or wrong color, or playing with the wrong or right toys. Raising them is not about an image they are expected to project as boys, nor about meeting the expectations of those around us. My parenting goal is to encourage my sons be themselves, to ensure they follow their own path, and not a route that is an easier and more peaceful path to take because it is one that males are expected to take.” The Good Men Project: My Boys Are Not Stereotypes, They Are so Much More

I would love to hear from other parents raising boys, either here, or over on The Good Men Project. Are boy stereotypes something they should strive for? Or are they your parenting anti-model? How do stereotypes effect your daughters?


About Amanda van Mulligen

Mother, writer, author, blogger. Born British, Living Dutch. I have three Dutch sons and a Dutch husband and I blog about Turning Dutch and raising highly sensitive children.
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7 Responses to My Boys are not Stereotypes, They Are So Much More – The Good Men Project

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  4. So interesting – I think though children may naturally fall into a sort of sterotype, we should give them every opportunity to explore everything available to both genders. I don’t have a son but a daughter and am happy for her to play with cars and dollies in equal measure – I think it’s very healthy for them. Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub x


  5. Yes! I want my boys to be whatever they choose when they grow up and not be what they feel they ‘should’ be. Once they are happy that is all I can ask for 🙂


  6. Kyles says:

    I have a two year old boy and a baby girl. So far they have both mainly been interested in the same sorts of things and they’re too young to even realise there is a difference. But I am worried about the gender stereotyping that is going to hit them in the not too distant future when they start being the target of advertising etc. I find that we’ve come a reasonable way as a society towards telling little girls they can do anything or be anything. Little girls are rightly depicted as strong and capable and can play with trucks or in the mud or kick a football. But people don’t seem to be quite as comfortable when boys want to play with dolls or makeup or with a tea set. As if these activities are odd or inferior or only for girls. There is so much talk of little girls being limited, but I really see little boys being limited and boxed too. Thought-provoking post #coolmumclub


  7. littlebug says:

    This is such an important point – we need to stop pressuring children into narrow gender stereotypes literally from the moment they are born. It’s awful! I’m having a boy and I really want to make sure we allow him to choose his own path. Great article, thanks. #coolmumclub


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