Some Days More Mother Than Others

It’s already the middle of January and this is the first post of 2018 – apologies for the serious slacking on my part. It’s been that way for a few months now and there’s a good reason: I’m a mother.

One thing I have learnt (the hard way) as the years have gone by is that no matter how much I love writing, my blogs and helping others with their highly sensitive children (HSC) my role as mother to my three HSCs comes first. And it’s a rollercoaster – some times I am needed more than other times.

And for the last few months they have needed me more than usual.

Some Days More Mother Than Others

We have been in our new home now for five months. We’re still doing building and renovation work. Daily life is being disrupted with builders, plumbers and electricians in and out of the house. The house is not yet as we want it. Some rooms do not feel like home. It’s unsettling.

The honeymoon period has passed. The feeling that we are on holiday is long gone. This is our new life and we are still finding our way. And my three children need help with that.

They love their new school, but still have dips when they miss their old friends. They are still getting used to different people around them, new ways of doing things.

My husband started a new job last October, had two car accidents that month (one his fault, one someone else caused because they were on their mobile phone) and there have been various health related issues – he had to hit the ground running. It’s taking its toll on him too.

And now it’s January. It’s cold, wet, windy and dark. As I write the thunder is crashing and the hail lays melting on the dark streets. That doesn’t help my kids who were born to be outside as much as possible.

It’s also bug season. My youngest was the latest to go down with the flu last week and he’s still not recovered. I’m not feeling my best either.

January is a bump we all need to get over.

And I know that we are not the only ones. The HSK community is full of the struggles of back to school after the Christmas break. It’s a stressful time as school time routines get back on track. For many of us it was nice to have our kids ‘back’ during the vacation as the stress of school slipped off them and they enjoyed being carefree during the break. I know I start seeing how my children truly are once the pressure and commitments are off them – and it’s lovely to see.

But as school and sports restart its even more confronting to see the changes in them as stress levels rise once more and a different state of ‘normal’ takes over.

And that’s when they need me most. Just as I have had so little time to work on emptying my own bucket lately. 

So I’ll say it again, with a smile on my face – January is a bump we all need to get over.

And why it’s already half way through January and I’m wishing you all a fabulous 2018……..just remember, you’ve got this!

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About Amanda van Mulligen

Mother, writer, author, blogger. Born British, Living Dutch. I have three Dutch sons and a Dutch husband and I blog about Turning Dutch and raising highly sensitive children.
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