Highly sensitive children typically stand out from other children, even if they don’t want or intend to. By nature they are different, and it is noticeable. The problem is that many highly sensitive children are uncomfortable feeling different.
As the parents of these amazing children it’s important to teach our highly sensitive children (HSCs) that standing out from the crowd takes courage but that being or feeling different is ok. In fact, it’s more than ok.
A reader of Happy Sensitive Kids recently got in touch with me to say that she has recently discovered her daughter is a HSC and her daughter actually loves the fact that she is different. What an amazing stance to take through life – and that surely has to be something we parents should strive to hear from our children as they grow up.
The fact is that HSCs do stand out, in many ways – and unless they suppress who they are or what they feel (and that would be a shame) then they will continue to do so as they go through life, even if the differences become more subtle as they move into adulthood.
HSCs stand out because tears fall easily and emotions run close to the surface.
HSCs stand out because they feel the emotions of others and those emotions affect them.
HSCs stand out because they notice the details.
HSCs stand out because they are more easily overwhelmed by their environment and they cannot always control how this overwhelm outs itself.
HSCs stand out because they wear noise reducing headphones in the classroom and need lots of quiet time to recharge.
HSCs stand out because they decline the birthday party invite from their best friend.
HSCs stand out because they refuse to stay overnight at their grandparents without their parents.
HSCs stand out because they don’t want to go away on school camp.
HSCs stand out because they stand at the side of the playground and observe instead of joining in the games of other children.
HSCs stand out because they are cautious about going down the slide in the playground and watch hesitantly as other children hurtle down with glee.
HSCs stand out because they have a meltdown when their mother or father leaves them behind at pre-school or school.
HSCs stand out because they won’t co-operate when the doctor or dentist wants to examine them.
HSCs stand out when a shy label is stuck on their forehead.
They stand out in so many situations. It’s no wonder the idea of being highly sensitive eventually takes on a negative life of its own. However, HSCs can stand out in ways that parents can nurture and eventually use to help a HSC see just how amazing their characteristics are.
Because HSCs also stand out for many positive reasons too.
HSCs stand out because they step in when they see someone being bullied or mistreated.
HSCs stand out because they see injustice around them and make a stand.
HSCs stand out because they don’t hesitate to comfort and help others in distress and need.
HSCs stand out because they feel strongly about different causes and stand up for those beliefs.
HSCs stand out because they care about animals and nature and initiate or take steps to help both.
HSCs stand out because they notice the beauty in the world around them.
HSCs stand out because they are creative.
HSCs stand out because they are insightful.
HSCs stand out because they are conscientious and hard working.
The ways HSCs positively stand out can be nurtured to show a HSC that standing out has its advantages. Highly sensitive people have the characteristics, passion and insights to make a real difference to others and the world we live in.
And that’s how we help them feel comfortable standing out in a crowd.