The Day I Became the Mother my Sons Need Me to Be

I have written before about how life changing it is to discover that your child is highly sensitive – that you can finally put a name to the behaviours and traits you see in your children. That light bulb moment actually paves the way to parent in a new way.


The Day I Became The Mother My Sons Need Me To BeIt’s the theme of my latest article that has been published by the wonderful parenting magazine Mamalode. “The Day I Became the Mother my Sons Need Me to Be” relays my story of how I came to learn my eldest son is highly sensitive.

“The term ‘highly sensitive’ meant nothing to me six years ago, back when I was the bewildered mother of a three-year-old boy who seemed unable to tolerate the world around him.”

I share just what a difference finding out about the existence of highly sensitive made to our family life.

“My beautiful sensitive boy. Not fussy. Not shy. Not socially challenged. Not high maintenance. Not in need of professional help. Just a highly sensitive child. My highly sensitive child.”

Learning that I am the mother to three highly sensitive children changed everything. ‘Highly sensitive’ helped me look at parenting in a whole new light.

They are words that helped me be a more patient, understanding mother to two more newborn sons who also cried often and inconsolably unless snuggled safely in their mother’s arms. I doubted myself less, and held my babies more.

To read the whole article head over to Mamalode.

I would love to hear your experiences too – leave a comment (on the article) and let me know what a difference finding out about highly sensitive made to you and your family.



About Amanda van Mulligen

Mother, writer, author, blogger. Born British, Living Dutch. I have three Dutch sons and a Dutch husband and I blog about Turning Dutch and raising highly sensitive children.
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